Why Do Guys Like Fingering Girls? As Told By 6 Men

2. Lube it up!

Witness the wetness: the more slippery your subject, the more satisfying your touch will be. Discard the idea that natural lubrication is enough: vaginal wetness is subject to the body’s fluctuations and can be impacted by hydration, hormones, medication and stress. Instead of leaving it all up to chance, get cracking with the lube.

For best results, opt for a natural, organic and good quality lube like the Sliquid range. Not only are they vegan, they don’t contain any allergens.

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6. Be a Tease

Approach the crotch area, but keep passing by it as if it’s invisible. One woman from the study likened this tactic to playing with a cat. If you reach right for it, it runs away. If you tease and don’t stroke it, it comes to you.

Another woman described a method she calls the “fake out.” To do it, you move your fingertip down your partner’s body from her neck to her breasts to her stomach, but instead of landing at her crotch, veer down her leg. Then, on the way back up, move your fingertip in another path that misses her crotch, too. These moves build anticipation and help awaken arousal. Many women love this kind of withholding and will eventually move their crotch toward your finger or tongue as it passes by — a good sign that the clit is ready to be touched. The more awake her body is, the more pleasurable it will be when you finally touch her clitoris.

Positioning advice

Manual stimulation can work in most positions. So as long as your hand can reach her vagina, and you’re comfortable, you should be fine.

A half spoon position can work well. As she lies on her back, lie on your side next to her. You can put your non-dominant hand under her neck so it doesn’t get trapped between you. And your dominant hand will be on top, so has complete freedom of movement to touch her.

I’d advise against standing positions or you lying between her legs in a traditional oral sex position. You’ll probably find your wrist cramps up from working at an awkward angle.

Don’t underestimate fingering

Fingering is a great choice for lots of reasons. Your partner is more likely to reach orgasm this way, and if you’re shooting for multiple orgasms then manual might be essential.

And whilst men don’t usually yearn for hand jobs, many women are grateful that their partner is willing to try manual.

So don’t underestimate the sensual potential of good manual stimulation. Variety is the spice of life, after all, and your partner will appreciate some attention from your lusciously creative fingers.

The Female State Of Mind

So, you’ve learned the basics of how to finger a girl. You’ve learned about preparation, techniques, and positions, but there’s still one very important piece of the puzzle that’s missing…

And that is the ‘female state of mind.’

Don’t Be Goal-Oriented To Her Orgasm

It’s very important at this point to remember not to be goal-oriented. If she feels in the slightest that you will be disappointed with yourself or with her if she doesn’t cum it will make it much harder for her to do it.

Sometimes you can even tell her ‘don’t come now,’ with a smile. This completely removes any psychological pressure to ejaculate but also has the hidden command of ‘squirt now,’ however you must have a relationship where she knows you’re just being cheeky and not serious.

As you continue with the g-spot stimulation, you will want to transition into a stronger up and down motion, with your fingers curled upwards (palm towards the roof).

As she gets ready to squirt the pressure on your fingers inside her vagina will increase as the skene’s gland fills and the PC muscles contract. The pressure is an indicator that she is about to squirt and if you remove your fingers now she may do so.

1. It’s More Than Sticking Your Finger In and Out

Remember, it’s what’s on the outside that counts. Specifically, we’re talking about the clit. One point echoed throughout the study was that the kind of “fingering” that actually brings women to orgasm is rubbing of the outside area around the clit. In fact, that’s how most women masturbate because it’s what actually feels the best. For the vast majority of women, penetration is nice, but it’s kind of like rubbing your balls – pleasant, but not going to make you come.

Why do girls like big hands?

Women like large strong hands because they like large strong men who presume to have hardier genes that she can mate with. Just like you enjoy a woman with smooth skin, a round ass and a pretty complexion because your subconscious tells you she will give you healthy offspring. It’s the same thing. Yes!

What do long fingers mean? Many of us have studied our hands and noticed whether our index or ring finger is longer. … Research suggests that having a longer ring finger compared to index finger reflects greater exposure to male hormones during an individual’s time in their mother’s womb.

How can I make my hands feminine?

5 ways to make your hands look more feminine

  1. -Wash with lukewarm water. …
  2. -Use a moisturizing hand soap. …
  3. -Get a nail brush. …
  4. -File and trim nails. …
  5. -Exfoliate your hands. …
  6. -Regular use of a hand cream. …
  7. -Use vitamin E oil. …
  8. -Treat cracks on your hands.

Can you tell the size of a man by his feet? Despite the widespread myth, however, they found there was no significant correlation between the men’s shoe size and penile length. This study appears in the October issue of British Journal of Urology International. But just as one myth about men’s manhood is put to rest, another one may now take its place.

Staying Safe: The Potential Risks of Fingering

While the potential for transmission of STIs via fingering is low, there is still a risk.

If you or your partner have an STI such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, or HPV, or if you do not know your status, it is important to practice safe sex. This means using prophylactics like finger cots, and avoiding specific types of contact (mouth to genital, genital to genital). Both partners should also wash their hands between activities.

It is also important to prevent injury to the vulva or vagina during fingering. You can do this by cutting your nails prior to the session, and ensuring your partner is properly aroused before entering the vagina.

7. Penetration is a side, not the main dish

You’re going to have to wait until your partner is properly warmed up, but some people like some penetration as part of their finger play. Before you begin make sure to ask your partner if it’s OK for you to go inside. Once you slip a finger or two in, these are a few moves you can try out.

  • A circular, swirling motion inside the vagina. This targets the sensitive area at the opening of the vagina.
  • G-spot stimulation (the spongy area of tissue, found two to three inches inside the vagina’s front wall). There are a few G-spot techniques you can try but the most common is a firm, “come-hither” motion using a finger or two against the vagina front wall.
  • Switch things up by slipping your fingers in the vagina, caressing the G-spot, then slipping them back out, up and over the clitoris. Repeat as necessary.
  • Get handy: use the rest of your hand to caress and massage the clitoris and labia while your fingers move rhythmically in and out.

It’s important to check in with your partner about whether they like what you’re doing. Ultimately, this should be a joint effort, with you both working as a team toward your partner’s ultimate pleasure.

If you’re concerned about finding their G-spot, you can always use a toy specially designed to massage it. Sex toys with a curved or bulbed tip are made to target vibrations and pressure to the G-spot.

An avid multitasker? You might also want to take a rampant rabbit vibrator for a spin, these sex toys are designed to target the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously.

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Reddit Users Share Some Tips

Focus mainly on her clit:

“I dated a girl one time who moved my hand to that location and I’ve seen it work with other girls I’ve been with since. As you can see from the image, the clitoris is actually a much larger organ (fun fact, it’s the only organ whose sole function is pleasure) than you may realize and extends into the body. If you rub in the spot indicated by the arrow you can experiment with how much pressure you apply.”

Rub it back and forth:

“One thing I’ve found that really works is to feel for something long and hard under the surface and rub almost like you are trying to move it back and forth. It feels like if you found a tendon on the back of your hand and started pushing it from one side to the other like a guitar string (it’s really hard to describe what I’m trying to describe). Anyhow, the ladies really seem to like it, so there you go.”

Bonus tips:

“Try cupping her bizz and massaging it. Girls seem to like that as well. Finally, you could try this: turn your hand palm upward, Curl your middle and ring fingers slightly and insert them. Inside of her, you should feel almost like a bony shelf (I’ve always assumed that this is the pelvic bone, but I’m not a doctor).” “Use your curled fingers almost like you’re trying to get a hold of this bony shelf and as you do let the heel of your hand apply pressure to her clitoral area. Because the pressure is distributed (the heel of your hand is a large fleshy area) and because it’s a little pressure rather than rubbing (which might be too abrasive for her needs) you might find that it works better with her sensitivity.”

Male Reddit user CHIRON0224

Get to know her body & what she likes:

“I used to squirt occasionally but not often at all. As I started focusing more on my g spot (I could never orgasm from flit stimulation, I’m sensitive and the few times I have it was mixed and followed by pain) the more I found out what my body responds to in order to squirt.”

Try various techniques:

“My SO of the last few years seems to focus on giving me to most intense orgasms he could, and I started squirting more often. After seeing this video he tried this technique on me, someone who already squirts. I think this video, while giving a good amount of useful tips, neglects saying that not that exact combination of moves works for every girl. For instance, the rough up and down motions he does while his fingers are curled inside her doesn’t do much for me.” “But curled and rotating/twisting motions with the fingers while simultaneously doing the “come hither” motion sets me off. Also, he says to go right to the flit when you feel her starting to come – this is a no for me. I need that steady motion to ride through the orgasm and reach that level where squirting is a definite.” “Now though, 99% of the time I can’t help but squirt. It just happens, and I think my body get used to letting go enough to do so. Its messy for sure, but I wouldn’t trade it. I do wish I had control over it though. Its hard to get away with doing stuff in public or when you’re leaving wet spots or puddles around or in your pants lol.”

Female Reddit user

Various women need different kinds of stimulation:

“Here’s what I like. All women are different. It would be helpful if she were a masturbator, because then you could get a sense of how she likes her clit handled. Pretty much every woman is different. Some like it to be treated roughly, some women will wilt like tulips if you do much more than blow on it. I’m definitely toward the tulip end of the spectrum.”

In the beginning, avoid direct stimulation of her clit:

“Gentleman approaches and gently, I said gently pinches my labia together with the pads of his finger tips, right at the clit, where the lips meet. When he does that, he twangs the nerve bundle of my clitoris. He then kind of slides, again GENTLY, the labia up and down that nerve shaft. It feels good, and it’s not putting direct pressure or contact on the clitoris, which I don’t like until I’m ready to go.” “Once I’m wiggling around & looking happy, he very slowly and gently slips a MOISTENED (lube or saliva) finger between the labia. He does not immediately mash the clitoris like an X-Box button, he makes a narrow V with his fingers and slides them around the clit, so he feels it between his fingers. Again, feels great, but it’s not direct stimulation.”

Play with her and tease her:

“Again, when wiggling & more “hurry up” signals commence, he will either continue with #2 if he wants to be mean, or go back to #1 if he wants to be really mean, or he will approach the opening. When going in, he doesn’t dither around the opening – there aren’t any pleasure sensors there, so nothing kills the ride more than having it messed with. He’ll enter (with clean hands and trimmed fingernails/no hangnails) with one finger at first, then two. Some women like ‘forward’ pressure – i.e. where you press upward toward their belly, with your fingers and make a kind of ‘come here’ motion – the G-spot is usually about 1-2 inches in.” “For some reason, my bladder is right there, so that makes me feel like I have to pee, and it hurts. My gentleman who has been around the block a lot, claims I’m the only woman he’s known who is like this, so YMMV. Anyway for me, he usually presses down a bit while pushing his fingers inward, which is a happy feeling. He’s usually careful with his hands as well – sometimes if you’re really jamming your fingers in hard, you can pinch the labia against the sit bones or pubic bone, which hurts.”

Alternate your moves:

“He usually alternates penetration with clitoral rubbing then – I personally do not like intense clit flicking. The clit needs slippery moisture, and work with the pads of the finger, not the harder tip of the finger. He usually keeps the hood in between his fingers and my clit.”

Male Reddit user

FAQs About Fingering

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The Grafenberg spot, or G-spot, is a sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina. Contact with this area is sexually pleasurable for some people, but others don’t enjoy it. Scientists still debate whether the G-spot actually exists, though.

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