What to expect when you lose your virginity (For men and women)

Why you might want to listen to me…

  • My natural looks certainly didn’t help me much in the getting laid department, I’m kind of short, skinny and I’m cross-eyed. But amongst adult male virgins, I think I was a decent catch. In my late teens and early twenties, I was kind of handsome, I dressed well, had friends, a car, a job, and a not bad apartment. But despite having all this going for me, I just couldn’t get a girl to sleep with me (for years!)
  • I lost my virginity at age 21 to a woman who was a real-life spy (yes, really!) In my American culture 21 years old is pretty late. Perhaps you’re older than that and thinking I wish I had lost my virginity at 21! That’s not so bad… Well, I had been trying like hell to lose my virginity since about age 18. Those three years felt like a lifetime where all the forces of the universe conspired to refuse me entry into pussy.
  • Finally, I did start sleeping with some girls and actually got a few girlfriends but they really didn’t respect me and after wasting my time we’d inevitably break up.
  • I then went through a few long dry spells when I felt like a virgin again. What had gotten me laid in the past didn’t work. Blue balls ensued.
  • Finally, I really hit my stride as a sexual man. In about a decade I seduced quite a few women. Blonde women. Skinny women. Women with giant tits. Black women. Sexy Latina women with big booties. Shy 18-year-old girls and mature 40-year-old women who knew just what they wanted. Women who didn’t speak English. Even a Chinese girl that liked to be choked!
  • For 6 years I traveled to 25 different countries. Dating and sleeping with women from Colombia to Ukraine. It’s been a lot of fun and it taught me some surprising and uncomfortable things about women.
  • At 33, I married a great woman with who I have the best sex of my life with. Who I have amazing conversations with. Who shares my passions. Who is amazingly committed to me. Marriage might not sound very appealing to you but nothing has made me happier than being married.


Here’s more or less how you should be spending those 25 hours

  • Exercise/Gym 4 hours
  • Meditation/Mindfulness 2 hours
  • Studying Social Dynamics 7 hours
  • Daygame 5 hours
  • Nightgame 6 hours
  • Networking/Planning Social Life 1 hour

You might be thinking how the hell am I going to find 25 extra hours to do all this stuff? I’ll address that further in this article.

Sure, you could save a lot of time and effort by just paying a hooker to sleep with you, but if you’re reading this you probably yearn for that manly experience of actually seducing a woman who wants you so bad that she wants you deep inside of her.

Maybe, you’re not technically a virgin, maybe you have paid hookers to sleep with you and it sucked; it was awkward, emotionally unfulfilling, and way too fast. And you live with the shame that you really didn’t deserve the sex, you just paid a whore to fuck you.

So, How to Lose virginity as a man?

This are excactly steps I would take if I were&nbs

This are excactly steps I would take if I were  a virging:

  1. I would read a few books on how to increase my stamina during sex, and how to become good at it. How to not come too soon. The sex god method is not bad, 2 girls teach sex also. Remember, good sex is the best way of getting your girl addicted to you.
  2. I would contact all friends I spend quality time with and go out with them. Or, I would go out solo. Find out where is the best place to go out, what is the situation in clubs, bars, college parties, etc. Go out 2 times a week. Think about the night game as going to get some fun. Don’t take seriously what people say or think at night. You are there to play with them and fool around. Everyone is drunk anyway. My advice is to not use alcohol. That’s how you will become more confident in social situations faster.
  3. Read a book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and apply things from it every day. That is a simple book about how to be more communicative. Don’t read it once, but download the audio version and listen to it a few times! There are a lot of books about how to be a better speaker, but you need to know two things first: a) Switch focus on the people you are talking with. b) Eye contact.
  4. I would hire some photographer to make nice pictures. People who live from taking photos knows exactly how to take pictures of you looking like a movie star. And of course, edit it in photoshop. Pay as much as you need, because this is a good investment.
  5. Use those photos and make profiles on all dating sites. Including Instagram.
  6. Like I said, go out 2 times a week. Practice focusing on a girl. The beginning is the hardest part. It’s easy after you develop an abundance mentality.
  7. Find some physical activity, at least 3 times a week. It’s important to feel good in your body. If you are skinny, go to the gym. If you are fat, do cardio.
  8. Work on your fears. Approach girls on the street. Most girls that I fucked come from a street game. Practice it. It’s a lot harder to begin approaching girls on day time on the street, but once you beat that fear that, everything will become easier for you.

Those are the steps you need to do.

Now, losing your virginity won’t make you a pimp. It basically means nothing. Nothing special at least, objectively speaking of course. But it will mean a world to you.

Because you all of a sudden don’t need to lie your friends(who also lie) on how and when you lost your virginity. You will relief that social pressure from yourself. And, you will feel more desirable to women.

Feeling desirable to women is very important in da

Feeling desirable to women is very important in dating. If you feel attractive, women will feel that way too, and they will “smell” your confidence miles away.

For your first sex, the most important thing is to stay relaxed and not worrying about performance. Because if you put pressure on yourself, chances are higher that you will somehow fail (even if you really can’t fail, you can only stay without sex and girl, that’s the worst thing that can happen). The less you give a fuck, the better you will be at sex. That is the hard truth at least when it comes to inexperienced guys.

Protect yourself from STD’s, wear a fucking condom, don’t play around. You don’t want to get some serious STD and they are very, very common these days.

Put on protection

Before you engage in sexual intercourse make sure that you have put on some protection. Then, slowly start inserting your penis into your partner’s vagina to penetrate her. Be attentive to her cues and her remarks. It is also a big deal for her and she will be the same if not more nervous. Once both of you are comfortable, try rocking gently back and forward until you find a comfortable rhythm.

Create a plan

There are many things that you need to remember for the big day and unless you write them down, you will forget. Most people want to make this moment very romantic and unique so maybe you will need to find a place and time that you both like. Also, you may want to decorate the venue and purchase all your supplies including condoms and lubricant.

Losing Your Virginity Is the Starting Line, Not the Goal

That confusion I felt was directly tied to an issue I find a lot of men have when struggling with their feelings about virginity: the belief that losing their virginity is a major milestone after which everything will be different and better.

It’s not really surprising, to be honest. We fetishize virginity in men and women, just in opposite ends of the spectrum. As I’ve said before: Men are valued for the sex they have, while women are valued for the sex they don’t have.

Virginity is prized in women – it’s a mark of “purity” and innocence. Virginity in men is vilified; being a virgin past a certain point is a sign of flaws and weakness.

But losing his virginity, on the other hand? That’s when the world is supposed to open up for you. The coming of age narrative for men inevitably links losing one’s virginity with becoming a man. Movies constantly make sex either the reward for the hero or the goal, after which they’re no longer the loser they were before. Sex becomes a way of taking a level in man.

Except life’s not a movie and that’s not how things work. The credits don’t roll as your penis starts singing the score from the Throne Room scene in Star Wars.

Losing your virginity isn’t the end of sexual maturation — it’s the beginning. You’re only just starting to learn about sex, not proving that you’ve finally mastered it.

There’s a zen koan that I like: “Before enlightenment: Cut wood, carry water. After enlightenment: Cut wood, carry water.” Life remains the same, even after you’ve achieved what you think you’ve always dreamed about.

Imagining that sex is going to make you different is a mistake. When you start to fetishize your status as a virgin, you’re setting yourself up for an inevitable disappointment when you do have sex because your life isn’t going to be any more fundamentally different than if you’d just ridden a roller-coaster for the first time.

You’re going to be the exact same person you were, with the same issues, anxieties, fears, and doubts. As with other forms of external validation, it doesn’t solve any problems and can actually make them worse.


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